I need to clarify…

Just wanted to share this question I got on Formspring tonight.

Is there a particular reason why you don’t like getting personal on this blog? Doesn’t it make it hard sometimes when something means something but you have to play it down and impersonalize it?

I answered this on formspring but wanted to clarify with all of my readers as this is something that is very important to me. Everything on here is truly me. I don’t tone down anything, except for on my bitchy days, I try not to be bitchy to all of you because that would be rude. My husband is the one that has to deal with the bitch. 😉 I don’t impersonalize anything. All my outfits, all my clothing picks, all my pictures, everything that I write is me, me and me. I don’t write about things that I don’t like, I turn down advertisers, giveaways and free stuff because they are not me. This blog couldn’t get more genuinely me. You can ask all my real life friends that read this blog. My husband reads my blog every day, and he knows about everything that I write about. This is me and I don’t play anything down.

What I mean about not getting personal is not sharing personal aspects about my life. I no longer want to share what my home looks like, I no longer want to share about where we walk our dogs or where we go on the weekends or where I’m traveling to for work (when I go on vacations with the hubs, I’ll still share with you but I may not share about it until I’m actually there). Why? Well, my little blog has grown to be a little bit bigger than I had ever thought of. I never expected that I would have this many readers and I don’t know the majority of you. While I’m fine with that, it also creates a barrier because I have gotten a few emails from creepy, sicko men who have found my blog and took a liking to me. The emails that they have sent to me, I am keeping in case I need it for further evidence. It’s SCARY. The fact of the matter is, although the majority of the people reading are awesome fun girls that I love and I relate to, I don’t know who else is reading this. It’s not because I don’t want to share things with you guys. I do. But I’m sure you all can understand that it may be dangerous for me. As I mentioned yesterday I was contacted by a creep about one of my pictures in where you can see my tights and shoes. At first, I thought it was a girl asking me where I got them and wanted to know more about them. I didn’t find out until later that he/she (most likely he) wanted more info on them to probably fantasize about me in them. Do you find that disturbing? Because I sure do. This is why I need to be smart about what I reveal on the blog. I’ve been clear to all the creeps that I have no intention of communicating with them and that they need to back off. All of them have seemed to respect that so it hasn’t gotten the point where I fear for my life. BUT I’m still not going to talk about personal aspects of my life because I’d rather be safe than sorry.

Writing about fashion is so much better for me as it still is truly me and I don’t have to hide anything. You all know what I’m loving at the moment, what shoes I bought, what bag I’m thinking about buying. None of that is toned down and I never not want you to think that this blog is not me. Instead of toning things down, I just don’t write about certain things which I think is best for everyone.

Anyway, I hope that clears things up. I just don’t want you guys to think that I’m not being genuine on here because well, if you meet me in person, I’m just like what I’m like on my blog. I often talk loudly and scream in excitement which is why you see me using so many exclamation points. I laugh a lot and I laugh loudly so I get in the habit of typing LOL because I really am LOL-ing! I use lots of smiley faces because I smile a lot! Maybe one day, I’ll figure out the video function of my camera and do a video post just so you can all see that what I write and what I really am is all in the same. Nothing is different.

To my readers, my true readers who are here to get to know me and read about my outfits and fashion. THANK YOU. I appreciate you and the time you take to read my blog. I know that there are zillions and zillions of blogs out there but the fact that you take the time to read my blog means the world to me.

Thanks for listening my loves! XOXO

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  • Diana
    March 13, 2010 at 7:46 am

    I know what you mean about not being personal. I try my best to stay away from it, too but there is a line crossed where you are comfortable with yourself.

    You are easily an intriguing lady so I can see why people can get the wrong idea by crossing the border (i hope that didn't sound creepy).

    Also have you ever read this? http://www.namaii.com/readme/
    I have it on my side bar for you know, creepers.

  • Stephanie
    March 13, 2010 at 7:50 am

    I understand why you need to keep certain aspects of your life private. The internet is a vast place and like you said you never know who reads it.
    It's always good to protect yourself from the creeps and also still maintain some privacy.

  • Katie
    March 13, 2010 at 7:50 am

    I completely understand what you mean. Fashion is a hobby and it's fun to share it in this type of atmosphere where other people who are also interested can enjoy it, but it can be separate from your personal life. Especially if you have lots of readers it makes even more sense that you wouldn't want to give out too much information. People are still getting to know you (and your personality!) and you're being safe about it.

  • Liz
    March 13, 2010 at 7:52 am

    Oh Tiffany, you have nothing to worry about! Your true readers respect your privacy!!! I hope that things don't get creepy for you, how icky! And as much as I do love seeing pics of the pooches and of your fab seattle life (b/c I may soon be moving), I totally understand your need and desire to keep things private! You are so sweet for clearing things up, thanks for always being an inspiration!

  • Chloe
    March 13, 2010 at 7:54 am

    Oh…blargh. This is personally one of the more frustrating things for me when it comes to blogging. For every, "Why don't you talk about your own life more…" email and comment I get, I get a, "Shutup and stop talking so much about your life and post more outfits, plz" comment in return.

    Really, it comes down to this- it's your blog, Tiffany, isn't it? And you can write about whatever you want 'cuz…it's your blog. You don't owe anyone anything, and if someone doesn't like that you don't open up more, then there's this neat little thing in the upper righthand of all web browsers that looks like a red square with an "x" inside. They can click that, and move along. Right? Right.

    I've always loved reading your blog, and I've never once felt like you impersonalize things! ♥

    (Petunia does wish that you'd post pictures of your puppehs more, though. I told her to shush, but she insists.)

  • Moomby
    March 13, 2010 at 8:24 am

    wow! thank you so much for touching on this topic! my modest little blog had garnered some cyber stalkers too and it's definitely unnerving. i understand that you want to share more with your readers (those interested in reading your content, versus reading to check in on you), but you simply can't. it's very understandable. safety first.

  • Tamstyles
    March 13, 2010 at 9:01 am

    I totally understand. You are doing the right thing. At the end of the day…its only a blog..it doesnt keep your lights on…you have a life that you need to protect..DO YOU!

  • Lucilla
    March 13, 2010 at 3:02 pm

    You are a very beautiful person, love your blog and is great!!
    Kiss <3

  • PetiteAsianGirl
    March 13, 2010 at 3:45 pm

    I feel you on this one…it's sad that for every handful of genuine readers, there is a creepy dude. The shoes and tights ones are especially disturbing – I think he combs all of our blogs. I love your blog and completely understand…safety first!

  • tiffany2stylish
    March 13, 2010 at 4:06 pm

    thank you all for your support. You guys are great!

    Diana – thanks for that link! I'm going to put it up too. (and no, you comment wasn't creepy at all! 🙂

    Stephanie – thanks for understanding!

    Katie – I'm glad that you feel like you are still getting to know me. I don't want people coming on here and just reading boring stuff. I try to be safe but I also try to be me too.

    Liz – you'll be moving to Seattle? oh fun! let me know if you'd like to meet up!

    Chloe – yes, you are right, it's my blog and I'm not changing it for anyone. p.s. whatever petunia wants, petunia gets. 😉

  • tiffany2stylish
    March 13, 2010 at 4:09 pm

    Moomby – scary isn't it? It's unfortunate that with all the good people on the internet with good intentions there's millions of bad people on the internet too.

    Tamstyles – so right! DO YOU! love it.

    Lucilla – thank you so much!

    PetiteAsianGirl – ugh, so gross isn't it? It's like leave us alone (You and I also have to deal with another group of men, the ones who have a thing for Asians. ugh.)

  • tiffany2stylish
    March 13, 2010 at 4:15 pm

    Last note – just be careful everyone! I never mention where I'm going or where I'm at. Nobody ever knows if I'm at home or not. I use twitter on my iPhone even when I'm at home, not just out and about. Be careful because you don't know who is watching you. Always be safe first! Nobody needs to know that you are at the coolest, trendiest restaurant until you are safe at home!

  • WendyB
    March 13, 2010 at 4:24 pm

    Some people don't understand that a blogger doesn't have to post EVERYTHING about her life on a blog, any more than a funny newspaper columnist reveals everything about his/her life in his/her columns.

    Most of the writers I know are smart enough to recognize that my blog is not the same as my life but other people seem to think they know everything about me.

  • A-C
    March 13, 2010 at 5:34 pm

    yea, definitely be careful. Especially since you've already shared a lot about you (your location, name, etc). This is honestly why I keep my name and location anonymous. Privacy and safety are important, keep yours and keep safe. *hugs*

  • Typhoid Ashley
    March 13, 2010 at 7:03 pm

    It sucks that there are so many creeps who abuse the internet. I feel all icky now just thinking about what you've had to read.

  • Nina (Femme Rationale)
    March 13, 2010 at 7:31 pm

    tiff, i take the SAME EXACT approach to my blog, too – i won't disclose what area i live in and i also don't disclose my whereabouts til after i've left the location. there are too many creepos out there and our readers have to understand it's not them that makes us this way, it's the creepy lurkers.

  • chibi
    March 13, 2010 at 7:45 pm

    You didn't have to clarify anything.
    Your true readers know how genuine this blog is.
    I love reading this blog everyday.
    I wish the creepy people would leave you alone.

  • Kristin
    March 13, 2010 at 7:56 pm

    I'm sorry you've had to deal with such nastiness. I wish the icky side of what we do didn't exist!

  • Robin
    March 13, 2010 at 8:02 pm

    I have been following your blog for a long time now and think you are doing a great job. I agree with Chloe and if people don't think you are releasing enough information they can close the browser. Keep up the good work and know that your true fans support you!

  • Rosemary
    March 14, 2010 at 12:44 am

    Ugh, so sorry that you have to deal with creepy people! That is just awful! I've always considered your blog totally you and real. Keep up the good work! And let's hope those sickos go elsewhere!

  • D.C. 2
    March 14, 2010 at 2:56 am

    There is no need for you to clarify Tiffany. Your personal business is just that yours. If you don't want to talk about it don't. I for one will still continue to read and support your blog. I really love your look books and tips about blogging. Don't let people tell you that you aren't sharing enough. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone.

  • shirley
    March 14, 2010 at 3:44 am

    Tiffany, I love your blog as you are easy to relate to and you present yourself with class and elegance. This is your blog and you don't ever have to explain yourself to anyone. Keep being awesome!

  • MizzJ
    March 14, 2010 at 3:50 am

    Wow you've actually gotten creeper emails? My bf is always warning me about that, but luckily I'm nowhere near "popular" enough to have gotten any yet! Don't feel bad about creating that separation between your blog and your life. Its your life and it's not like people should think it's normal to pester you with personal questions! We wouldn't write Anna Wintour about where she likes to vacation over Xmas, so why should we about our fav bloggers?

  • Chelsa Bea
    March 14, 2010 at 4:29 am

    It makes me so sad that some people, aka 'the creepers' are so wierd and ruin something that is so special and innocent. I've loved your blog since the day I found it. You have a distinct voice, that is definitely, truly 'Tiffany'. Thanks for continuing to share with us all that you do. You're a fabulous blogger, lady!

  • Wicked Thrifty- Formerly The Thrifty Stylist
    March 14, 2010 at 4:40 am

    well then! i was thinking about joining formspring but this kind of weird, random question is… kind of off-putting!
    i think you're great and enjoy what you write about yourself and your outfit choices. have a lovely weekend!

  • Elizabeth Marie
    March 14, 2010 at 5:28 am

    This really made me think…I need to be a little bit more careful. It's so hard because I write so much "personal stuff" but I'm starting to leave out details.

    Your safety is our number 1 priority!!! Gosh people are nuts 🙁

    Love you Tiff!

  • kimmie
    March 14, 2010 at 6:37 am

    I'm sorry that you're getting all the weird creep-o's stalking you. 🙁 you should totally post all the emails on emailsfromcrazypeople.com. j/k 🙂

    But as someone who is privileged to know you in person, your blog truly comes across as very "you"! 🙂 Your blog is awesome, just like you! yay!

  • Couture Carrie
    March 14, 2010 at 5:10 pm

    I totally understand, darling!
    Keep up the amazing blogging!


  • drollgirl
    March 15, 2010 at 1:48 am

    there are a LOT of weirdos out there. or maybe there aren't, but the weird ones kind of ruin it for the rest. that is one of the reasons i have an anon blog and one of the reasons i can't stand facebook.

    keep up the good work here, and be safe! you do a great job and the nice thing is that you get to decide what you want to reveal, and what you don't. you are in control little lady. 🙂

  • Jo
    March 15, 2010 at 2:16 am

    Hi babe, I am your ardent reader and I just wanna say that I TOTALLY understand your predicament. I love how incredibly honest and open you are and that is simply refreshing. 🙂 Keep up the awesome work!!

  • Maki
    March 15, 2010 at 3:59 am

    I totally understand Tiff!!!! I think we all need to sort of draw the line between exposing yourself and being true to yourself. I write about my family and friends, etc, but I've been trying to be a bit careful – I used to expose a lot and in detail about my life and I agree, there are so many sick people out there and we all have to protect ourselves, friends and family. I love everything about your blog and I will always be your big fan!!!


  • J-Ezzy
    March 15, 2010 at 3:07 pm

    This is a perfect post!!!

    I do the same thing (exclamation points, LOL's) b/c I am just like that! I smile all the time (hence the laugh lines started at 24)…lol. <— see, there I go again! <- and again!

    XX (hugs, hugs)

  • Arlyah
    March 15, 2010 at 4:51 pm

    Completely understandable. 🙂

  • Gerrie
    March 15, 2010 at 5:52 pm

    You've got such a fabulous and bubbly personality, it's no surprise that your readers would want to get to know you better. It is just unfortunate there isn't a way for you to prevent undesirable characters from accessing your blog.
    I echo the sentiments of the other comments – ultimately, this is your blog, you don't owe anyone an explanation on how you choose to write it (I personally find the mutiple exclamation points and LOLs endearing) and what you decide on posting. And yes, disgruntled readers can click on the "X" in the red box on the right most corner of their screens and move on.
    Stay safe girly!!